Tough Love

    Ayla is now days away from being 1 year old and I'm dealing with an unfortunate behavioral issue. It's cropped up in the last few weeks and is one of the most frustrating things that I've had to deal with thus far. Hitting. Not just hitting either, she'll hit me and then crack up laughing when I tell her "No!"
    Up to this point my only response has been to hold her hand, look her in the eye and firmly say "No." And her inevitable response is to look me straight in the face and laugh really hard. What's even more frustrating is that it always seems directed at me, never anyone else.  It's sometimes hard to remind myself that she's not trying to hurt me but can't express herself any other way. I was reading several blog posts last night from moms who have had similar issues and they've all pretty much said the same thing that I've been doing. Some have recommended time-outs, distracting her with a toy, or even providing a suitable object to hit instead.
    The good thing is that I usually know exactly why it's happening. Last night, for instance, I had to wake her up to feed her dinner. She was exhausted and just wanted to go back to bed. She started throwing a fit while I was trying to feed her and a little later when we were snuggling on the couch. Adrian had to put her to bed and it was the first time I didn't kiss her goodnight and tell her I loved her. It broke my heart but I didn't want to give her another opportunity to hit me. And to tell the truth, my feelings were hurt. This morning it happened again. We were playing on the floor before I took her to daycare and she started getting fussy and hitting again but she actually crawled into my lap to hit me. I placed her back on the floor, looked at her and said no. Finally, after three or four times, I gave her the rest of her morning bottle and it stopped. Maybe the distraction thing works, maybe the night's sleep helped calm me down but I felt more confident that this was a stage that I could get through without wanting to rip my hair out.
    She's still my sweet baby, but I guess this is a sign of what road lies ahead. I guess the real parenting is about to start. Tough love sucks!

Infant Life Hacks

    I thought it might be nice to share some of the quick little tips Adrian and I picked up along the way that made life surviving the first 9 months a little better. This will probably become another list that I update along the way as well. Enjoy!

    1. Put a blanket, quilt, or crib pad down on the crib mattress every time baby sleeps in the crib. The last thing you want to do at 3:00 A.M. is change the crib sheet because baby spit up or peed. Just make sure that whatever you use will not suffocate baby if they roll around. 

    2. Power pumping. It's time consuming and a pain but also the BEST way to ensure that you get your milk supply up as much as possible in those critical first couple of weeks. 

    3. Feed solid foods, bathe, then give baby a bottle. This helps baby get full, relax, and then top off. Ayla usually lays her head down within 15 minutes of finishing her bottle so when we put her in her crib, there's rarely ever any crying or complaining. 

    4. Let daddy take a feeding. By trading off feedings or taking a particular overnight feeding, daddy can help you get a few more minutes of sleep every night by taking just one or two of those late night or early morning feedings. Pump throughout the day and there'll be plenty of breastmilk for him or he can use formula if you supplement. 

    5. Keep wipes stashed all over the house. Baby spits up at all hours of the day and night and you may have to do an impromptu diaper change or wipe baby down for whatever reason. Having wipes handy gets you back to play or snuggle time that much faster!

    6. Don't throw any durable containers away. Some of the best toys we have are empty water bottles and formula boxes. Just wash thoroughly and let dry before giving to baby. It's the free stuff that always seems to get the most use in our house. 

    7. Don't be afraid to wash baby off in the sink or tub rather than use half a box of wipes. Wipes having chemicals that can  irritate baby's skin and those blowout poops get everywhere anyways so sometimes it's just easier to lay a few towels down in the sink and hose baby down. Always fill the sink to the appropriate level first so you can test the water temperature. 

    8. Invest in a few water proof pads for the changing table. These are great because it allows you to be a bit more messy as you're learning to change diapers without adding to the laundry pile. Babies 'R Us has great disposable ones.

    9. Get a travel changing pad with pockets or compartments. This allows you to store diapers, a change of clothes, wipes, and/or cream without carrying your whole diaper bag into the bathroom with you. Guaranteed life saver when away from home. 

    10. Always carry a change of clothes. You just never know what's going to happen. Seriously. 

    11. Always buy a backup lovey. If baby has a favorite toy or binky, be sure to get body doubles ASAP. It's essential to have something handy when Lovey's in the wash or temporarily M.I.A. and before that model is discontinued and nowhere to be found. 

    12. Always pack one more bottle than you think you may need when going out. It's better to have an extra than get stuck without one. It may also be helpful to invest in bottle coolers or carry an unopened bottle of water in your diaper bag with a formula portioner. We got the Tommee Tippee bottle coolers and use them all the time. 

    13. Invest in a carseat cover. Whether you make it yourself (they're super easy to make like this one I made. This is the pattern.) or get one free with shipping & handling from Carseat Canopy, it's a great way to cover baby when going out, protect them from nosy shoppers, and while its rainy or sunny. It can also double as a travel playmat and/or a nursing cover in a pinch.
    14. Give baby a distraction while they're on the changing table. Ayla started getting really fussy whenever I would lay her down on the table to change her. She would try to spin her way off the side and then she'd get mad at me when I wouldn't let her. Turns out, all I had to do was give her a choice of comb or brush and ... Voila! Problem solved... For a bit.
    15. The Tidy Diner. It's a reusable silicone placemat that you can pull out at a restaurant, rinse, roll up and go. Genius!
    16. Stroller bags are a must! Yes, this is not necessarily the same as your every day diaper bag, although I'm trying to figure out a pattern to make them interchangeable. I have a link to a fantastic pattern for a stroller bag on a separate post. It makes all the difference in the world to be able to add some storage to an umbrella stroller once you're ready to let go of your full-size travel system.

Best Toys Money Can Buy

    These toys are proof-positive that it doesn't take a lot of money to entertain a baby! I'll post more ideas as they are discovered.

$1 whiffle balls from Dollar Tree and a pot.

An empty 3 quart water bottle.

$1 Wind-up monkey toy from Dollar Tree. A useful crawling practice tool. (Of course, this one is only used under tight supervision.)

Stacking cups from Grandma Mimi.

A Wonderful Article

I read this Bump article and thought it actually had great advice and information. Some of the articles that I read from the Bump make me question then as a reliable source of support but this has realistic advice and information for moms who are weighing whether to breastfeed or formula feed. Obviously, I'm a breast feeding supporter and this article helps resolve a lot of the misconceptions I had and was given about breastfeeding. 

Enjoy everyone!

http://m.thebump.com/new-mom-new-dad/breastfeeding/articles/worst-breastfeeding-advice-ever.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=Newsletter&cm_pla=Parent&cm_ite=July%2030,%202013&MsdVisit=1

THOSE People

    Our little family is scheduled to visit some VIPs in Washington state in August, and in preparation, Adrian and I are researching travel tips for flying with an infant. My biggest fear is becoming THOSE  people on the plane with the screaming baby that everyone wishes they could incinerate with laser beams shooting out of their eyes. I always hated that when I would travel from DC to Texas and want to avoid that at all costs now.
    Amidst researching the airline, TSA, searching the internet and conferring with friends who have successfully travelled with their children, we've managed to figure out a few things. 

     1. Maybe most important for me to remind myself, those people are the ones that do nothing and act like people should just get over it. It's true that there's not much that can be done about a screaming, crying baby. But I do think there is a big difference between parents that try and those that could care less about the others around them. I'm obviously not that person, so I think we're covered in that respect.

     2. The number one suggestion has been to feed Ayla a bottle at take off and landing to help her equalize her ears and keep her calm. This actually works out perfectly because the flight takes about 4 1/2 hours and takes off about an hour before her bedtime, which will work out nicely if she can manage to fall asleep and stay asleep on the plane.

     3. Apparently, checking the stroller and the carseat shouldn't be a problem, but the one concern I have is definitely what to do when/if we have to keep her in her carseat, for instance during take off and landing. Plus, she's so squirmy now and I just know she's going to give me those big, brown puppy dog eyes to beg me to take her out. My plan of attack is to bring a few interesting toys and, the guaranteed distraction, my phone! 

     4. We've started Ayla on solids, beginning with rice cereal and we're going to slowly work in a variety of fruits and vegetables. That's handy since that gives us more of a variety of options while we travel but milk was a concern since it's a liquid. Apparently frozen breastmilk should be ok and we can buy pre-bottled formula that won't freak TSA out too much. If all else fails, I'm a walking baby buffet, which may come in handy, so I think we'll be ok for food.

     5. Even though we're traveling with an extra person (who oddly enough requires two times the clothing & luggage as us), we only get the standard carry on allowance for the ticketed seats. Considering that the flight is a critical part of the trip, this presents a particular problem. Adrian and I have decided that we would prefer to attempt to travel light. I'm leaving my purse at home or will pack it in my suitcase. The diaper bag is big enough to double for my carry on for purposes of the flight and Adrian will bring a backpack that will contain the iPad, travel documents, adult snacks, etc... Hopefully this limits the amount we'll have to juggle at the gate.

     6. DIAPERS! We have to use disposables while we're traveling but we still need to use the cloth diapers at night. Still haven't figured this one out except that we're going to pack one package of disposables and wing it with the cloth diapers. We can always purchase more diapers but we may not be able to wash the cloth diapers. We may have to figure something out.

    All in all, we're looking forward to the visit and now we feel more confident about the trip! We've done our homework so I think we'll manage at least as well as can be expected under the circumstances. Now all that's left to do is go and buy Ayla her very own luggage from Sam Moon!

Tumbleweeds and Canaries

    Well, it's been a few weeks since I last posted and for good reason! School is officially out for the summer and I'm now working at an internship downtown; a nice change from what I had previously planned... A class on wills and estates. It's not quite the break that I was hoping for but I'll take whatever I can get!

    Meanwhile, Ayla has been blossoming! I'm still waiting for an official crawl but she took a half-step the other day and enjoys rocking back and forth on her hands and knees. She has definitely caught on to rolling both ways and that has become her main mode of transportation. Baby-proofing has already begun. She's now sitting up straight like a champ and wants to hold her own bottle, whether she's able to get any milk or not. It's amazing how quickly she catches on to things once she sets her mind to it. It's also amazing how stubborn she becomes when she decides to be. (Doesn't sound familiar at all, right?!) Her new big thing is pulling up onto her knees. That's a new trick she discovered yesterday as she was trying to harass the dog and grab my phone. Now she's trying this hybrid crawl/stand thing and can't quite get either one right. It's funny to watch!

    We've also started her on cereal in the evenings and I was amazed at how quickly she took to eating from a spoon. The one crazy "Ayla" habit she has is sticking her thumb in her mouth after every bite. It's not as bad now as it was when we first started but it's pretty funny to watch! I'll try to post a video later. The next step is to try out mashed up fruits and vegetables with this handy little contraption. You place softened foods inside the mesh bag and it instantly becomes a veggie- or fruit-popsicle. I'm excited to see if it works. A friend also told me about reuseable bags that act almost like a sippy for pureed foods. Imagine a Capri-Sun for baby food. Not so excited about the inevitable stinky poopy to follow. I've also decided that I'd like to try to avoid jarred baby foods if possible. We need to eat more fresh fruits and vegetables ourselves anyways, and with a little planning ahead, I'm hoping that it won't be too big of a hassle.

    My most favorite new trick of Ayla's is her constant singing in the car! It's just vowels and babbling, but to me, it's the sweetest sound in the world! Most of the time, I'll join in with her and she likes that, but every once in a while, I'll let her take the solo. She's actually been doing it for months but not as consistently as she does it now. I think my joining in has encouraged her to do it more often! She's a really fun buddy on the morning commute when she doesn't pass out!

At Long Last

    After a crazy semester of just trying to keep up, I've finally found an opportunity to update everyone on our little Cupcake! I've not only added new photos but also added a Videos page. 

    Ayla is now officially 5 months and moving around like crazy. She's been sleeping through the night for months,  is now dealing with teething, and we've gone for a few months without any diaper rash issues. We've also figured out some things along the way...

    Ayla's now on a sleep schedule that's flexible enough to fit in with my crazy schedule. We've managed to make both our crazy work/school schedules work. We've found a friend that will babysit for us so we can have a date night. I've even found an online diaper service that is cheaper than buying diapers at the store and includes wipes! Life is busier than ever and there's no doubt that we have to work hard to make it work but its worth it in the end to know that Ayla is healthy, happy, and thriving. 

    So, check back in with us every now and then and I promise I will too!